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The Power of Shared Experience: How Workplace Fasting Strengthened Team Bonds

17/3/2025

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Introduction 
Sometimes, the most profound team-building experiences happen outside of structured initiatives. A simple invitation to fast during Ramadan became a profound team-building experience in our office. When our Muslim colleague asked if anyone would join her in fasting for a day, twelve of us—most complete novices to fasting—took up the challenge. What unfolded was a day of hunger pangs, deep conversations, and surprising revelations that offer valuable lessons for workplace culture. 


The Science 
Psychological research underscores the power of shared novel experiences in strengthening interpersonal bonds. Two key principles came to life during our fasting experiment: 

  1. The Mere Exposure Effect & Shared Novelty: People are more likely to feel connected to those they repeatedly interact with. However, when a shared experience is novel, it accelerates this process. Studies show that engaging in a new, effortful activity together creates a sense of unity. 
  2. Social Identity Theory & Group Cohesion: Humans naturally categorise themselves into groups. Shared challenges, like our fasting day, reinforce group identity and deepen trust—much like how sports teams or military units’ bond through shared hardship. 

Key Findings 
  1. Beyond Small Talk: Genuine Human Connection: As hunger set in, our usual work chatter transformed. My boss (who participated in the fast) shared her conversation with another colleague on his weekly fast and what that means to him. Many of us connected on a more personal level—discussing resilience, cultural traditions, self-discipline, and spirituality. People who rarely interacted before suddenly had meaningful exchanges. The shared struggle opened doors to authentic conversations. 
  2. Hunger as a Leveler: Social Equity in Action : The Equity Principle states that people seek fairness in relationships, balancing inputs (effort) and outcomes (rewards). By 12.55, one of our leadership team colleagues added in the fasting chat as some members of the group was going for a walk- can you bring me a massive sandwich back please - loads of ham, salad and mayo? and a full fat coke? On this day, fasting became the great equalizer—regardless of role, experience, or background, we were all experiencing the same struggle. This fostered mutual respect and solidarity. 
  3. ​Cognitive Empathy Through Lived Experience : Many of our colleagues had heard about fasting before, but living through it gave them a completely different perspective. Empathy isn’t just about understanding someone’s situation intellectually; it’s about feeling it. Shared experiences like these provide a powerful way to build true cognitive empathy at work. Living it for a day was eye-opening for many. Many complimented my Muslim colleagues’ ability to carry on the day quietly without fuss unlike some of who couldn’t carry by late afternoon.  
  4. From 'Hanger' to Support : At first, there was inevitable “hanger” (hunger-induced irritability). Yet, as the day progressed, frustration turned into light-hearted camaraderie. People checked in on each other, exchanged words of encouragement, and even joked about their struggles. The collective effort transformed an individual challenge into a shared triumph. 
  5. Cultural Learning : Our Muslim colleague shared insights about Ramadan's spiritual significance, explaining how fasting fosters self-discipline and empathy for those less fortunate. This impromptu cultural exchange deepened our understanding and respect. 

What This Means for Workplace Culture 
This experience reinforced that openness to shared experiences strengthens workplace culture far more effectively than structured team-building exercises. 

  • Breaking Silos: The fasting experiment facilitated cross-departmental interactions. People who rarely interacted were suddenly bonding over their shared challenge. 
  • Fostering Inclusion: Inclusion isn’t just about policies--it’s about participation. When people step into an unfamiliar experience together, they gain new perspectives. Several team members expressed a newfound appreciation for diverse cultural practices. 
  • Building Psychological Safety: Sharing vulnerable moments—like admitting to hunger-induced irritability—deepened trust. People felt more comfortable being their authentic selves at work.
     
A Quote to Reflect On 
"We don’t learn from experience. We learn from reflecting on experience." — John Dewey 

A Question to Reflect On 
When was the last time you stepped out of your comfort zone to truly understand a colleague's experience? How did it change your perspective? 
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Further Reading 
  • "The Culture Code" by Daniel Coyle — Explores how shared challenges build strong team cultures. 
  • "Empathy in the Workplace: A Tool for Effective Leadership" by the Center for Creative Leadership — Discusses how empathy enhances leadership and team dynamics. 
  • TED Talk: "The Power of Vulnerability" by Brené Brown — Illustrates how shared vulnerability strengthens connections. 
Remember, creating opportunities for shared experiences—whether it's fasting, volunteering, or learning a new skill together—can transform your team's dynamics. Consider what unique, challenging experience you could propose to bring your team closer together. 
 

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The Psychology of Equity: Why It Matters More Than Ever in the DEIB Landscape

3/3/2025

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Introduction
The conversation around Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Belonging (DEIB) has become increasingly contentious in recent years. While some organisations push forward, others roll back their DEIB commitments, citing political pressure, economic concerns, or shifting priorities. Despite this turbulence, one thing remains constant: human beings have an innate drive for equity.

Equity is not just a corporate or political construct—it is a fundamental human motivation shaped by psychology. It dictates how we interact in relationships, how we perceive fairness, and how we respond to injustice in everyday life. Understanding the psychology behind why we seek equity, regardless of the political narrative, is critical to advancing DEIB efforts in an era of uncertainty.

The Science Behind the Equity Drive

Equity Theory: The Core of Fairness Perception
In the 1960s, psychologist John Stacey Adams introduced Equity Theory, which states that people assess fairness by comparing their inputs (effort, skills, time, experience) and outputs (salary, recognition, opportunities) with those of others. When we perceive an imbalance, we experience distress regardless of our tribe, colour, or creed. This psychological discomfort drives us to restore equity by either reducing our effort, demanding fair compensation, or even leaving the situation entirely.

This theory explains why employees resist pay gaps, why marginalised groups continue to push for equal opportunities, and why organisations that ignore equity concerns experience low engagement, high turnover, and decreased productivity.

The Social and Evolutionary Roots of Fairness
Research in developmental psychology shows that even young children have an innate sense of fairness. Studies with toddlers demonstrate that they expect rewards to be distributed equally and will protest when they witness unfair treatment. This drive for equity is not exclusive to humans—research with primates demonstrates that even monkeys reject unequal treatment, signalling that fairness is an evolutionary trait rather than a social construct.

From an evolutionary perspective, fairness is a survival mechanism. Societies that uphold fairness tend to encourage cooperation, trust, and stability, whereas inequitable systems lead to conflict and division. This is why marginalised groups that have historically experienced systemic inequities—whether in wealth, education, or healthcare—are increasingly advocating for structural changes to correct historical disadvantages.

Key Findings: How Equity Shapes Workplace and Social Behavior
  1. Perceived Inequity Leads to Withdrawal: Employees who believe they are under-rewarded reduce their effort, disengage, or seek alternative employment. This is why companies with persistent pay inequities and limited advancement opportunities struggle with high turnover.
  2. Equity Fuels Motivation and Innovation: Research shows that equitable workplaces experience higher levels of creativity and collaboration. When individuals feel valued and fairly compensated, they are more likely to contribute their ideas, leading to business innovation and growth.
  3. Equity Drives Organisational Commitment: Employees who perceive fairness are more loyal and committed. Organisations that embed equity into their culture experience greater trust, productivity, and long-term success.
  4. The Psychological Cost of Ignoring Equity: Ignoring inequity doesn't just affect workplace culture—it causes psychological distress. Studies have shown that individuals who perceive consistent unfairness experience higher stress levels, anxiety, and burnout.

The Pursuit of Equity Despite Political Pushback
Recent political trends have attempted to undermine or reverse DEIB efforts. However, from a psychological standpoint, equity is not a political agenda—it is a universal human need.
Even organisations that have been forced to scale back public DEIB commitments cannot ignore the practical benefits of workplace equity:
  1. Retaining top talent: Employees who feel their contributions are fairly rewarded stay longer.
  2. Boosting engagement and morale: Equitable workplaces nurture higher levels of productivity and job satisfaction.
  3. Enhancing company reputation: Companies known for fairness attract better talent and customers.
For historically marginalised groups, the call for equity is not about taking opportunities from others—it's about ensuring fair access to opportunities that have historically been denied. This movement is not a moment—it's a long-term shift towards systems that promote fairness, transparency, and sustainable inclusion.

What This Means for the Future of DEIB
Despite political resistance and cultural pushback, equity will continue to be a central concern in workplaces and society. Leaders and organisations must reframe the DEIB conversation to emphasise:
  • Equity as a business strategy, not a political statement.
  • Fairness as an economic driver, not a social cost.
  • DEIB as a commitment to human potential, not a divisive issue.
  • If everything else fails, focus on psychological safety as it is a critical component of successful DEIB initiatives. It creates an environment where all individuals feel comfortable being themselves, leading to increased innovation, engagement, and overall well-being.

Recent Data and Emerging Trends

Recent studies have highlighted the significant impact of DEIB initiatives on organisational performance:
  1. Companies in the top quartile for diversity are 36% more likely to outperform their industry medians' financial returns.
  2. Organisations aligning their mental health and DEIB strategies were 25% more likely to report increases in employee engagement.
  3. Diverse companies are 70% more likely to capture new markets.

Intersectionality and Systemic Approach
It's crucial to recognise the concept of intersectionality in DEIB efforts. Individuals often belong to multiple identity groups, and their experiences are shaped by the intersection of these identities. A systemic approach to DEIB, rather than focusing solely on individual interventions, is necessary to address complex, interconnected issues of equity and inclusion.

A Quote to Reflect On
"Fairness does not mean everyone gets the same. Fairness means everyone gets what they need." — Rick Riordan

A Question to Reflect On
How can organisations maintain their commitment to equity and fairness in a world that is increasingly polarised on DEIB issues?

Final Thoughts
While political landscapes may shift, the human drive for fairness and equity remains unchanged. Organisations that embrace this reality will not only survive the current backlash—they will lead the future of work.

Equity is not a trend. It is a necessity.

Further Readings:
  1. Diversity, equity and inclusion not bad for business
  2. Beyond DEI: The New Era Of Equity And Psychological Safety In The Workplace - HR.com
  3. What Happens to Workforce Mental Health When You Add Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Belonging to the Mix? - One Mind.
  4. Diversity, equity and inclusion not bad for business
  5. Sarah Brosnan: Why monkeys (and humans) are wired for fairness | TED Talk
 


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